When we are really in touch with our asking, it is always to
connect, to have a real connection with those around us. Our
deepest askings are to be seen and to be appreciated for who
we are. Our real askings are to go beyond our surface "stuff"
that keeps us from really connecting with those in our lives.

On the surface we may ask for more money and this is okay to 
ask for. But, if we stay with our asking, we will see there is
a deeper asking beyond this. We might see that we are asking for 
money for an even deeper asking. We may wish money so that we will
be loved and appreciated. We may wish money so that we feel safe 
and cared for. There may be many reasons for this asking and if
we ask: "What is my real asking here?" we will always be led to
what our heart is really asking. Our asking is to experience being
loved and appreciated, to being seen and heard. Our real asking
is to feel safe and cared for.

Surface asking will always take a particular form. We will ask for
a particular thing or event. We will ask for a particular happening 
to take place, in a certain way. This will all be surface asking.
It is not to judge or condemn this, for it can lead us towards our real 
asking. The closer we get to the heart of asking, which is the
asking of the heart, we will find less and less form and more and 
more of the essence of what we wish in our lives.

Rather than asking for our day to go a certain way, we will find
ourselves asking for a day filled with joy and connection.
Rather than asking for a relationship to stay or come together in
a particular way, we will find ourselves asking for the most loving
and healthy relationship to unfold.
Rather than asking for what we think will make us happy, we will 
find ourselves inviting in, asking for the very essence of happiness
to enter.

Understand, this does not make surface asking wrong. All asking is
necessary in order to come to our real askings. This point cannot
be overemphasized. It is okay to ask anything. And when this is okay,
soon the askings of desperation will fall away and we will be left
with the real askings. The more it is okay to ask, the more "stuff"
connected with askings will become apparent and the more it can be
released for the real askings to be answered.

For your consideration,
 

                                 -- The Guides 

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